It’s very rare that one individual is wholly responsible for the difficulties in a relationship. Perhaps you should go to counselling alone, where you can be heard

• Every week Annalisa Barbieri addresses a problem sent in by a reader

I am 60 and I’ve been in a long-term relationship with my partner for more than 20 years. We have been extremely unhappy for a number of years.

Our relationship has frequent conflicts over small things. When we disagree on something, I am blamed for my stubbornness or lack of empathy. Innocuous exchanges can turn into confrontations that end frequently with my partner blaming my behaviour. I have been described as moody, insensitive, immature and condescending.