Dr Orna Guralnik, clinical psychologist and Couples Therapy star, on the prompts that could help your relationship

This is about asking people to move out of the automatic ways they think about their relationships. In the background, they’ve probably heard many times from their partner what they need, and have found all sorts of ways to ignore that information because it’s hard for them. One person might be asking for more warmth – to hug once in a while, say – and for all sorts of reasons the other person might be withholding that, or they’re not wired that way. But it’s not such a hard give. It can also be something as concrete as, “Remember I don’t eat ham when you’re cooking.” Could you push yourself to be more generous and go beyond your own limits?