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The last thing I expected to see at a Melbourne vegan festival was a tall, dark and handsome man wearing a rugby union guernsey. I smiled at him and went about my day, grateful I’d worn my eating pants as I munched my way from food truck to food truck.

By that night he’d somehow tracked me down on social media. His name was Aaron and he asked me on a date. An actual date – not “a movie” or to “hang out”, but a date. It was the first time anyone had done that.