Just as the cause of shame is outside us, so too must be the cure. Connection with others and collective action is a path to self-acceptance and belief

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Mark, a queer man in his mid 30s, has been seeing me fortnightly for a few months now. I have learned that Mark loves his work and lives with his loving partner in a home they love, on a street they love, with a dog they love.

I have also learned that Mark believes he is unloveable.